“I don’t have a family anymore,” he replied when I asked him if they were supportive. It’s a standard question I ask patients to get them talking.
Family support means a lot to them, but they have extremely limited access to phones at the clinics. Detox patients, those still on prescriptions to ween them or slowly getting their “drugs of choice” out of their systems, can only make phone calls on speakerphone with their therapist. For the rest of their stay they get
“One of my daughters stopped talking to me six months ago. The other is about to graduate, I don’t know when,” he said in his quiet voice. He’s one of the hardest to understand patients. He speaks very quietly. His libido has been chipped away with each loss. He’s merely going through the motions now. All he can do now is stop the thanatos, further self-destruction.
He, another patient, and I had a conversation about alcoholism once. Rick wanted to know, like a lot of the patients, about my own background with drugs and alcohol. I tell them a stripped-down version of the truth – I did a lot of reckless things when I first got into college overcompensating for having a completely straight-and-narrow high school life. I got out of senseless excesses when I got out of the dorms, though I am still a social drinker.
Rick, the other patient, told me for him it started like that. At some point he found himself getting home from work an hour before his wife got home. He’d pound six beers before she came out. He’d have three around her that evening. Mowing the lawn took two hours because he kept a stash of beer in the shed.
”Alcoholism is really about lying and deceit. I used to pack all my beer bottles at the bottom of the recycling bins so no one could see how much I was drinking,” Rick told me at the end of the conversation.
Late tonight
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